How to Balance a Relationship and Your Career
Posted on February 13, 2015
I rarely discuss my personal life on this blog but I thought in the spirit of Valentine’s Day I’d write a post on how to manage a relationship and running your own business. I’m no relationship expert (let’s make that very clear) but here are a few ways I manage to make the two work:
1. Put Your Relationship In Your Calendar. I don’t mean that you need to put your personal information in your calendar for your whole team to see but you need to make your relationship a priority. For those of us who only know our schedule the “morning of” and get swept up in emails and calls everyday, its important to plan these things. Make notes to yourself regarding when you need to start looking for gifts, making reservations, and planning things out. Any important holidays, anniversary’s, birthday’s should be listed in your calendar. Even the most romantic people can’t always remember everything!
2. Take a Loop To Get Looped In. You’ve heard me use this expression before “take a loop” meaning take a walk around your neighborhood. With so much going on every day it’s impossible to keep up with my own life, my friends lives, and my boyfriend’s life every second of the day. At least 2-3 times a week, I make it a priority to leave my phone inside and go on a walk with my boyfriend and listen to him talk about what’s going on in his life and vice versa.
3. It has to Be a Priority. Work matters but my relationship matters more and if that changed everything would change. I’m not saying that work isn’t important but work isn’t going to comfort me when I’m sick or sad – my significant other will. He’s just more important and I try to make sure that my decisions reflect that.
4. Consistent Communication. When I’m traveling (and I travel a lot) I try to stay in communication with my significant other as frequently as possible. I like to report where I am, what I’m doing, and how everything is going. Whenever I’m in transit (via car, train, or plane) I try to at least send a text update. It’s the little things that matter and I like that he’s in the know and aware of where I am and what I’m up to.
5. Put Down Your Phones. It’s 2015, we’re all on our phones all of the time but there has to be some disconnect time. It’s when we disconnect that we can really connect with other people. Try to have some sort of cut off time or “phones down” time when you can just hang out. Turn off your email alerts and turn down your ringtone and just hang out with one another. Sometimes it’s the times when you are bored together when it can actually be the most fun.
Happy Valentine’s Day!