6 Ways I Handle Rejection

Posted on September 22, 2017

They say rejection is the biggest fear of our generation. And it makes sense. We’ve all felt that awful stomach-twist when we get rejected – we feel like the wind was knocked out of us. The problem is – rejection isn’t going anywhere. Rejection has been a constant in my life. I wanted an internship – people told me no. I wanted to start my own business – people told me no. I wanted a book deal – people told me no. The list goes on. I am fully-aware that rejection will remain a big part of my life and so I’ve come up with some ways to cope. These strategies help me and I hope they help you.

  • Have Backup Plans. With the job search, you always want to leave options for yourself. You never know what’s going to happen with a company – even if you have the best “connection” in the world. Having a back-up plan always helps to cushion the fall once you get rejected. With my business deals, I try not to rely too heavily on any big company as I never know when they will change their mind and pull our deal. I always try to have a backup plan.
  • Ask for Feedback. When someone rejects me from a project or deal I like to ask for feedback. I’ll say something like, “Thanks so much. Just for future feedback, is there something I could have done differently?” or “Thanks so much. Are you able to send me any feedback?” Sometimes I’ll actually get constructive feedback from this question.
  • Vent to the Right People. I write about this in Welcome to the Real World. I learned early on that when I’m having a business-related issue, I should vent to people who are in similar situations who can understand what I’m experiencing. So in this situation, I’d call other friends who run their own businesses. Sometimes venting to people who don’t understand is extremely frustrating.
  • Take a Walk. Sometimes you just need to get outside, get some fresh air, and breathe for a moment. It helps put life into perspective. There is more to life than you rejection email.
  • Keep Working. When I get rejected, it helps to have a to-do list right next to me so I can put my head down and keep moving. The act of physically keeping the show moving often helps me realize that there are other projects going on that need my attention. I almost make it impossible to dwell too much on the rejection.
  • Rock Out. On my phone, I have a rejection playlist. What’s on my rejection playlist? I think we’ve actually published it online before but you’ll have to read Welcome to the Real World to find out!